I have books on my shelf about spiritual disciplines: Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life by Donald Whitney, A Celebration of Discipline by Richard Foster, The Spirit of the Disciplines by Dallas Willard,
Healthy conflict, based on shared goals and active listening, can turn polarized disputes into productive engagement, unlike destructive high conflict.
True spiritual maturity shows in consistent Christlike character—kindness, patience, humility, and self-control—in everyday small moments, not just public success.