Things I like about being 41

I’ve been feeling really blessed these days. There are lots of things I like about my 40s so far.

  • Having kids who are transitioning to new stages of maturity. Old enough to talk with but not old enough to not need us.
  • Enjoying the type of relationship you can’t have unless you’ve been married almost a couple of decades with somebody.
  • Feeling old enough to have matured some, but not old enough to quit.
  • Most everything still works, plus or minus a few hair follicles.
  • Felling like I know what I’m good at, and being okay with the things that aren’t on the list.
  • Sitting with 20-year-olds and realizing that I’m not facing their pressures. Also – remembering a world (without cell-phone texting and 24/7 connections to the Internet) that they have never known.

Things I don’t like about being 40:

  • Thinking that 80 isn’t so old after all.
  • Counting down (25 years to go) rather than up (I’ve been at this for 10 years).
  • Being shocked when I meet people who are in important positions who were born in the 1980s (soon to be 1990s).
  • Not realizing how old I really am until someone asks me if I have a kid in university.

Last night, a Kenyan friend told me how back home they would brag about age. It’s not something to hide; it’s something to celebrate. He said he can’t wait to get gray hair. Me, I’d just settle for hair.

I think we need to recover that view of aging. But you’d expect that from someone who now really gets the statement, “Youth is wasted on the young.” Wouldn’t you?

Darryl Dash

Darryl Dash

I'm a grateful husband, father, oupa, and pastor of Grace Fellowship Church Don Mills. I love learning, writing, and encouraging. I'm on a lifelong quest to become a humble, gracious old man.
Toronto, Canada