there comes a time when the most heinous hurts need to be forgiven. there comes a time to say goodbye to the people and the pain that have kept us in slavery for years. i’m thinking of the quote in “shawshank redemption” where the inmate says, “it’s was time to get on with living, or get on with dying.” it’s true. the pain and the anger and the hurt and the violation of a lifetime someday will force us to act. to get on with living… or get on with dying.