Going the Distance with Rusty McKie


If we’re going to go the distance, we need practices that will sustain us and help us grow.

Many people call this a Rule of Life.

But many of us don’t know what a Rule of Life is, or where to begin.

Rusty McKie, founder of Steadfast Ministries, wants to help. In this episode, I talk to Rusty about what a Rule of Life is, and how to get started.

Key Ideas

  • A Rule of Life helps us put on paper some of the practices that help us become the person we want to be.
  • A Rule of Life helps us say yes and no to things in life that help us and hinder us.
  • Monks developed the idea of a Rule of Life as a way to follow Jesus together in community.
  • A Rule of Life helps us understand the practices we need to put in place to follow Jesus given our personalities and the streams of culture.
  • Your Rule is a living document that will change over time.
  • The best place to begin in writing a Rule is with spiritual practices.
  • Write various practices under categories, such as communion with God, rest, community with others, and work.
  • A Rule of Life is primarily about relationship. It points us towards joy and life.
  • Writing a Rule of Life is a good first step.


“A Rule of Life helps me decide what are the things in life that I’m going to say yes to so that I can abide more deeply in my relationship with Jesus. And then what are the things in my life that I need to say no to, so that I can abide more deeply in my relationship with Jesus.”

“I would not necessarily recommend you look at someone else’s Rule of Life to build out your own. That’s not necessarily a good place to start, in my opinion.”

“A Rule of Life primarily for me is about relationship. It’s about my relationship with Jesus, it’s about my relationship with others, and my relationship with Jesus is life-giving.”

“It’s all about relationship. It’s not just about our progress or our achievements, it’s about what are the obstacles to union and communion with Christ. And how can we take those obstacles out of the way experientially?”

“For the overachievers, the active folks in the room, with your Rule of Life, you probably need to pull the dial back.”

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Going the Distance with Rusty McKie
Darryl Dash

Darryl Dash

I'm a grateful husband, father, oupa, and pastor of Grace Fellowship Church Don Mills. I love learning, writing, and encouraging. I'm on a lifelong quest to become a humble, gracious old man.
Toronto, Canada