Friday
Dec202002
Anniversary
Friday, December 20, 2002 at 10:20AM
Char and I celebrate our twelfth wedding anniversary this weekend. Because of other obligations, we're celebrating earlier (tonight). Charlene said to me yesterday that she likes what Gary Thomas says: what if God intends marriage to make us holy, not happy? I wouldn't say we've been unhappy - far from it - but marriage is no cakewalk. I can't buy those cards that say it's been day after day of unbridled bliss. It hasn't been. We're daily confronted with our differences and weaknesses. Marriage has a way of uprooting selfishness and character flaws. But I wouldn't change it for the world (most days). Before we got married, an older couple said to us, "You have no idea what love is. You think you're in love now - wait until you've been married 25 years. Then you'll know what real love is about." They're right. We're finding that out.
Reader Comments (2)
Nice comments. So how did you learn to accept and understand each other inspite of the differences and flaws? I know so many people who basically walk away when they find something that they may deem "unattractive" about the other person. This of course is an ugly reason to walk away since we are all human, but I guess people don't understand this concept and expect everything to be done a certain way. How did you learn to celebrate your differences?
You know, i really couldn't tell you. Part of it is realizing that I married her for who she was, including many of the things that are different than me. Also, when she's like me she drives me crazy. I don't know what the answer is, except somehow choosing a better attitude.