Ending the Discussion Before It Starts

by Darryl on February 9, 2010

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I’ve found that there are ways to end a discussion before it even begins. It’s easy: you set the terms of the discussion so that if you disagree with me, then it’s clearly because you have a problem, so it’s no use even continuing. It’s not really fair, but it allows me to pretend that I have the moral high ground while it effectively silences you, if you let it that is.

When I watched a video about Brian McLaren’s new book, I wondered if that was happening. If I disagreed with McLaren, would I be one of those brittle, scared people resorting to ad hominem arguments out of my desire to maintain the status quo? It’s an awful way to start a discussion if those are the terms!

I thought of this again last week as I read Mike Wittmer:

I read the introductory three chapters of A New Kind of Christianity, and so far it’s an updated version of the Brian we’ve seen before. He claims to be “a mild-mannered guy” who is only looking for a new way to be a Christian that will boost the declining numbers in our churches, and he can’t understand why his critics respond with “fear,” “clenched teeth,” and “suspicion and accusation.” Brian’s really good at winning sympathy, and soon I was loathing myself for ever politely disagreeing with such a nice man.

But then I remembered that this debate about the Christian faith–which he and his friends started–is not a personality contest. You can’t dismiss what Christians have always believed and then expect a free pass because you’re likable. And just below the surface of Brian’s humble, can’t-we-all-just-get-along vibe is an accusatory tone that repeatedly compares his critics to a religious Gestapo whose leaders defend their conservative beliefs because they don’t want to lose their jobs.

At the end of McLaren’s book, the writes:

You can either criticize my responses from a distance…or you can come to the table, join the conversation, and make your own contribution. Be assured, if you come in that spirit of collegial contribution and creative collaboration, many of us will be eager to hear what you have to offer as we journey forward together…Wherever that willingness to rethink has been squelched, wherever that sense of quest has been buried under convention and complacency, the Christian faith in all its forms is in trouble.

Here’s what I want to flag: I’m not sure I like these terms. There’s a subtle (or not so subtle) implication that we can pull up to the table with smiles and pose our own questions, and tweak McLaren’s proposals and join the fun. But if we say that we have concerns, it’s implied that we have a problem and we’re trying to shut things down. This makes it hard to review a book, never mind deal with the kinds of issues raised in a book like this.

So I’m coming to the table, and I promise not to call anyone names. I’m hoping I’m allowed to stay for a bit even if I disagree with what you say. Those are the best kind of tables I’ve sat at. But if I can’t disagree without being called one of those people, who’s squelching the discussion?

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What Other Subject?

by Darryl on February 7, 2010

Jonathan Edwards wrote this letter in 1751 to a mother shortly after the death of her only son. What should he write about?

It was that which appeared to me to be the most proper subject of contemplation for one in your circumstances; that, which I thought, above all others, would furnish you a proper and sufficient source of consolation, under your heavy affliction; and this was the Lord Jesus Christ:–particularly the amiableness of his character, which renders him worthy that we should love him, and take him for our only portion, our rest, hope, and joy; and his great and unparalleled love towards us.–And I have been of the same mind ever since; being determined, if God favoured me with an opportunity to write to your Ladyship, that those things should be the subject of my letter. For what other subject is so well calculated to prove a balm to the wounded spirit.

After writing about Jesus at some length, Edwards concludes:

We see then, dear Madam, how rich and how adequate is the provision, which God has made for our consolation, in all our afflictions, in giving us a Redeemer of such glory, and such love; especially, when it is considered, what were the ends of this great manifestation of beauty and love in his death.

I love this part:

He suffered, that we might be delivered. His soul was exceeding sorrowful, even unto death, to take away the sting of sorrow, and to impart everlasting consolation. He was oppressed and afflicted, that we might be supported. He was overwhelmed in the darkness of death, that we might have the light of life. He was cast into the furnace of God’s wrath, that we might drink of the rivers of his pleasures. His soul was overwhelmed with a flood of sorrow, that our hearts might be overwhelmed with a flood of eternal joy.

It’s a very warm and rich letter, still worth reading today. Google Books has more

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Saturday Links

by Darryl on February 6, 2010

2010 Pastors Conference audio and video from Desiring God

Mike Wittmer begins reviewing McLaren’s new book A New Kind of Christianity

First Sermon Jitters: Help for Aspiring Preachers

Spurgeon on why you shouldn’t be a pastor

What Is the Missional Church?

Dan MacDonald on gospel mercy vs. cultural mercy

Associated Press article on Matt Chandler

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Better Pastors Than Us Have Been Through Worse

by Darryl on February 2, 2010

I’ve taken The Works of Jonathan Edwards with me to read in the waiting room at my doctor’s office. I’ve received some curious looks. Who in the world is Jonathan Edwards? There would have been a time when most people would have known.

Edwards was a pastor, renowned preacher, missionary, college president, and philosopher. Some argue he was the most brilliant theologian ever born on American soil.

And he was fired by his church.

Why do I bring this up? One: because I’m in that section in my reading. Two: because I know a lot of pastors, which is a little dangerous. At any given time, I know that some of them are going through tough situations. It’s good to know that we’re not alone. Better pastors than us have been through much worse. Even you pastor and things are going well, I think it’s good to be reminded that job security really isn’t everything it’s cracked up to be.

There’s no doubt that Edwards contributed to his firing. He handled a church discipline issue badly. Some of the leading families openly defied Edwards, which proved to be a psychological turning point. Once Edwards lost his moral authority, he never got it back. Some argue that Edwards experienced the beginnings of a change in the common view of authority. We see the changing views in hindsight, but things probably weren’t so clear at the time. In a way, he was swept away by cultural forces much bigger than him.

Edwards also had a major doctrinal disagreement with his people. He believed that he could win the people over by force of argument, but they simply weren’t listening. And so he was fired.

You get an idea of how hard this would have been from this passage:

“Every one must be sensible,” remarks Dr. Hopkins, who was himself an occasional eye-witness of these scenes, “that this was a great trial to Mr. Edwards. He had been nearly twenty-four years among that people; and his labours had been, to all appearance, from time to time greatly blessed among them: and a great number looked on him as their spiritual father, who had been the happy instrument of turning them from darkness to light, and plucking them as brands out of the burning. And they had from time to time professed that they looked upon it as one of their greatest privileges to have such a minister, and manifested their great love and esteem of him…Now to have this people turn against him, and thrust him out from among them, stopping their ears, and running upon him with furious zeal, not allowing him to defend himself by giving him a fair hearing; and even refusing so much as to hear him preach; many of them surmising and publicly speaking many ill things as to his ends and designs! surely this must come very near to him, and try his spirit.”

Edwards wrote in one letter before he was dismissed:

This controversy, in the progress of it, has proved not only a controversy between me and my people, but between me and a great part of New England; there being many far and near who are warmly engaged in it. This affair has unavoidably engaged my mind, and filled up my time, and taken me off from other things. I need the prayers of my friends, that God would be with me, and direct and assist me in such a time of trial, and mercifully order the issue.

After his dismissal he wrote:

I can now inform you, that the controversy between me and my people, which I mentioned in the beginning of my letter, has issued in a separation. An ecclesiastical council was called on the affair, who sat here the week before last, and by a majority of one voice determined an immediate separation to be necessary; and accordingly my pastoral relation to my people was dissolved, on June 22nd. If I can procure the printed accounts from Boston of the proceedings of the council, I will give orders to my friend there, to enclose them with this letter, and direct them to you.—I desire your prayers, that I may take a suitable notice of the frowns of Heaven on me and this people, between whom there once existed so great a union, in bringing to pass such a separation between us; that these troubles may be sanctified to me; that God would overrule the event for his own glory (in which doubtless many adversaries will rejoice and triumph); that he would open a door for my future usefulness, provide for me and my numerous family, and take a fatherly care of us in our present unsettled, uncertain circumstances, being cast on the wide world.

And later:

The dispensation is indeed awful in many respects, calling for serious reflection and deep humiliation in me and my people. The enemy, far and near, will now triumph; but God can overrule all for his own glory. I have now nothing visible to depend upon for my future usefulness, or the subsistence of my numerous family. But I hope we have an all-sufficient, faithful, covenant God, to depend upon. I desire that I may ever submit to him, walk humbly before him, and put my trust wholly in him. I desire, dear Sir, your prayers for us, under our present circumstances.

Every pastor goes through problems sometimes. Some are even fired. I guess in a small way it’s good to know that we’re in good company. If Jonathan Edwards was fired, we shouldn’t be surprised that the road gets bumpy for us once in a while. We should probably expect it. Better pastors than us have been through much worse.

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I took part yesterday in a service in Toronto to mark 400 years of Baptist history. It was a bit of an event, as Bill Kinnon noted when I posted about this event earlier:

I know some folk, now with the Lord, who would have wept at this event – seeing the FEB and BCOQ, make that CBO&A, worshipping together again. May the Lord speak powerfully through Dr. Haykin and may this be a sign of the Church beginning to work together in real ways in our fair city.

A webcast of the service is online.

Michael Haykin gave a great talk reflecting on Baptist history, and describing five marks that have reflected the movement. The audio (MP3) is also online.

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Preach the Gospel

by Darryl on January 31, 2010

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I’ve been soaking up Charles Simeon lately. Here’s some encouragement for you from Simeon if you’re preaching today. His thoughts are based on 1 Corinthians 9:16: “Woe to me if I do not preach the gospel!”

Respecting men’s call to the ministerial office, it would be difficult to speak with any degree of certainty…But the obligation to discharge the office with fidelity, when once it has been undertaken, is as manifest in relation to us, as it was in reference to St. Paul himself: a dispensation having been committed to us, we may every one of us say, “Woe is unto me, if I preach not the Gospel!”

Simeon says that the office of ministers is, “in one word, is to ‘preach the Gospel.’” And for those “who discharge their ministry aright”:

They may meet with much opposition from an ungodly world: but they are truly happy, in the hope that “they shall both save themselves and those who hear them.” Sweet is the thought which a faithful minister has in looking forward to the time of meeting his people at the judgment-seat of Christ. The sight of many whom he shall then have to present to God as his spiritual children, saying, “Here am I, and the children whom thou hast given me;” and the prospect, that, to all eternity, he shall have them as “his joy and crown of rejoicing” before his God; say, is not this delightful? Will not this be a rich reward for all his labours, and for all that he had suffered in the discharge of his high office? Yes, verily, if he had died a thousand deaths for them, this would be an abundant recompence: and this blessedness assuredly awaits the laborious minister, the faithful servant of his God. (Horae Homileticae Vol. 16: 1 and 2 Corinthians)

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Saturday Links

by Darryl on January 30, 2010

Steve Brown on why pastors need a mean streak

Mercy is missional and vice versa

The uncool glory of the gospel

Leadership advice from Carl Trueman

Trevin Wax on mundane tasks and interruptions

Tim Keller on The Shack

What stands in the way of us experiencing joy? One thing.

“I would like to attend a church that shared more in common with Toastmasters than it does with traditional church life.”

“The emerging conversation, for all of it’s errors, said a lot of things we need to hear.” Here’s a list.

Wrong reasons to love the church

How to wreck your church in three weeks

Another example of Tozer being way ahead of his time. He has us nailed.

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Satan’s Playbook and Precious Remedies

by Darryl on January 28, 2010

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Thomas Brooks writes:

Beloved in our dearest Lord,

Christ, the Scripture, your own hearts, and Satan’s devices, are the four prime things that should be first and most studied and searched. If any cast off the study of these, they cannot be safe here, nor happy hereafter…

From the power, malice and skill of Satan proceeds all the soul-killing plots, devices, stratagems and machinations, which are in the world. Several devices he has to draw souls to sin, and several plots he has to keep souls from all holy and heavenly services, and several stratagems he has to keep souls in a mourning, staggering, doubting and questioning condition.

He has several devices to destroy the great and honorable, the wise and learned, the blind and ignorant, the rich and the poor, the real and the nominal Christians.

I often marvel. Satan’s playbook is very limited. I’d guess it’s five pages or less. He keeps pulling out the same tired strategies, and surprisingly, they often seem to work. He’s anything but original.

I had a friend once who commented that the thing to remember about Satan is that he always overplays his hand. That’s always stuck with me. He’s not subtle in his approach, and he always goes just a little too far.

I plan on reading Precious Remedies. Satan’s playbook hasn’t been updated, and I doubt Precious Remedies needs much updating either.

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Flunking Kingdom Economics

by Darryl on January 26, 2010

It’s a little embarrassing to admit, but there’s no use denying it.

I’m flunking kingdom economics. It’s especially embarrassing because I pass myself off as one of the teachers.

More of my confession at epconference.net.

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Why Pastors Should Consider Working Mondays

by Darryl on January 25, 2010

It’s Monday morning. Most pastors I know are taking their day off today. I understand why: most pastors I know are pretty busy during the week, but things build as they get closer to Sunday. By Monday morning they’re often tired and maybe even discouraged. They need a day to recover.

Years ago, Archibald Hart wrote of post-adrenaline depression and how it affects pastors after Sundays:

…what I was experiencing was a profound shutdown of my adrenal system, following a period of high stress or demand. It was as if my adrenal system were saying, “That’s enough abuse for now; let’s give it a break,” and shut down so that I had no choice in the matter.

What this means is that pastors generally aren’t feeling their best on Monday mornings.

It’s for this reason that I find it helpful to work on Mondays. I tend to avoid the office and meetings on Mondays and do some low-intensity work. I find that there’s always a pile of stuff that I really need to deal with, and that don’t place heavy demands on me like many of the more intense tasks in ministry.

The reality is that I need a weekly sabbath – not a day off, and not a legalistic day, but a day of joy and refreshment. It’s not a day to catch up around the house or to run errands. It’s a day to completely unplug and release myself from all obligations, and to enjoy relationships and activities that bring me joy. For me, Mondays simply don’t work. I can’t enter into this day of delight when I’m simply trying to recover from the day before.

If you’re a pastor, I don’t want to tell you what to do. If Mondays work for you, I won’t argue. But if you’re feeling blue on Mondays, please consider making them a low-key work day, and take your weekly sabbath sometime else when you can really enjoy it.

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